tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post5786098235262018078..comments2024-03-05T20:00:47.681-06:00Comments on Blogging 'Bout Boys: Doing the Best We CanJennifer Finkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-27561976373052690882012-05-26T20:00:41.513-05:002012-05-26T20:00:41.513-05:00Jenni,
Yes to your words. Homeschooled first 2 but...Jenni,<br />Yes to your words. Homeschooled first 2 but my last 3 I couldn't for various reasons. I often have to ask myself if my behavior makes me feel more spiritual than another, then my heart is wrong. <br /><br />And years ago, I would have been shocked to hear the words that are said in my home and watched on my TV today. Oh well. It makes me laugh at my arrogance. <br /><br />So thankful for grace and our experience. Beautiful post!Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09285521350755345199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-52318299135095367512012-05-26T13:29:58.214-05:002012-05-26T13:29:58.214-05:00You bring up a very good point, Alex.You bring up a very good point, Alex.Jennifer Finkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-12908031263428220402012-05-23T14:50:06.984-05:002012-05-23T14:50:06.984-05:00I would say get to grips with your "secret&qu...I would say get to grips with your "secret" -- you are judging, as we all are :) We choose the course of action we want, presumably for some good reason. Other courses are just ... worse, for us. Just have the maturity to simply not give a rat's butt about how someone else does things. Sure, maybe evaluate it, but once you've decided then there isn't a reason to care about someone else.<br /><br />I must say also, though, that a lot of people judge and interfere without evidence. Recently some woman saw me roughhousing with one of my boys just at a certain moment when it looked like I was hurting him, and she just layed into me with her fragment of misinformation, totally ignoring how happy my kid was. I really didn't know what to do about that at the time. People aught to keep an open mind and ask a few internal questions before they're really sure about what they think they know.Alex | Perfecting Dadhttp://www.perfectingparenthood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-23061948451643643212012-05-23T11:20:15.734-05:002012-05-23T11:20:15.734-05:00Age and experience make such a different, don'...Age and experience make such a different, don't they? And isn't that why we're all so happy when our formerly kid-less friends and family members have kids? Because you really do have to have kids to understand how challenging the job is!Jennifer Finkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-82245723281449763792012-05-23T11:18:49.400-05:002012-05-23T11:18:49.400-05:00You can't stop other people from taking offens...You can't stop other people from taking offense. Sometimes, I think other people react based on their own fears and doubts and insecurities. Take my example in the post above, Cassandra's comments about protecting our kids from those images and msgs. It strikes an emotional cord with me precisely b/c I secretly worry about the same things. Because I worry that maybe I *have* let him see and hear too much. But that's when I have to remind myself that I am doing the best I can. We tend to expect perfection of ourselves, but that's an unobtainable goal.Jennifer Finkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-77324672229961937972012-05-23T11:16:04.469-05:002012-05-23T11:16:04.469-05:00Hmm, you bring up a really good point. (And an exa...Hmm, you bring up a really good point. (And an example that I relate to completely). I think I'll be writing more on this topic soon...Jennifer Finkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-77111870086431187442012-05-22T16:42:52.355-05:002012-05-22T16:42:52.355-05:00Great post, and definitely important for all of us...Great post, and definitely important for all of us to think about. I know that I have become less "judgy" with age, and I've also become less sensitive to others' comments, trying to give the benefit of the doubt that maybe they're just trying to be helpful because they don't understand or don't have all of the information or haven't had the same experiences I've had. The older I get, the more I think that most of our problems would go away if we all just tried a little bit harder to see things from others' perspectives... It's all about compassion and understanding and loving and forgiving, but we just keep taking it to deeper and deeper levels as we move through life! (In other words, as you said, we're all just doing the best we can!)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060555701831124349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-12899589551076613792012-05-22T16:26:14.101-05:002012-05-22T16:26:14.101-05:00There's a blogger I read sometimes who is real...There's a blogger I read sometimes who is really sensitive about cloth diapers. I think if someone else is using them, she feels guilty for not using them. As someone who uses cloth diapers, that is frustrating. I truly don't care whether another mom chooses to cloth diaper or not! I definitely agree that we shouldn't judge each other. But what about when we can't stop other people from taking offense?Karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11427522030281989523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-38515459693231990702012-05-22T14:48:23.579-05:002012-05-22T14:48:23.579-05:00This is an awesome post, Jenny! Like you, I tend t...This is an awesome post, Jenny! Like you, I tend to think that I AM doing the "best" things, but I know I can come across as judging just by ASKING, "Oh, you're not nursing? why not?" But then, how do you even start conversations that could be edifying without starting from a point that MIGHT be construed as judge-y? if someone were to say, "I just couldn't make enough milk," I really want to chime in with information on how it was probably more likely that she didn't get enough support, you know?<br /><br />DeniseDenisehttp://www.meanmomsrule.comnoreply@blogger.com