tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post7083957715731867886..comments2024-03-05T20:00:47.681-06:00Comments on Blogging 'Bout Boys: Poll: Boys & BirthJennifer Finkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10568576650343979230noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-14519306290955637732009-11-27T23:52:04.561-06:002009-11-27T23:52:04.561-06:00wow. i think i would totally leave the level of in...wow. i think i would totally leave the level of involvement of my boys completely up to them during that time. i would venture to guess that they would want no part of it, only to see the gray wiggly little guy (or girl) after he (or she) was duly born.<br /><br />i am not prego but would love to be! as far as a home birth, i am all for it but there is no way my husband would be remotely comfortable with the idea, especially after the complications during the birth of our second son.MarshaMarshaMarshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06787051368018458658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-103359968094950722009-11-22T18:32:48.075-06:002009-11-22T18:32:48.075-06:00This is a really interesting post, Jennifer. I hav...This is a really interesting post, Jennifer. I have two sons, and they were both present at their little sister's homebirth (they were 4 and 6 at the time). However, as you say above, it was all doable precisely b/c they were able to hang out at home, continuing their regular routine, and come in only right when she was about to be born. I really need to concentrate before that and would not have coped well with any distractions. Anyway, they loved being able to see their sister being born. <br /><br />With our last birth (less than a month ago), I now had three children to think about, plus this would be my first hospital birth. What we ended up doing was having them come and wait down the hall (we knew labor was likely to be pretty fast) and then we got them right after the birth so they could meet their new baby sister right away. I think it turned out to be best for me to do it that way in that setting - I could relax and labor without distractions. Had we been in a different setting, I would have liked to get them when baby was being born, but it was a bit difficult to work out all the logistics. They saw it all on videotape afterwards anyway.Christinehttp://www.origamimommy.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1473387128642021993.post-91557239643424199402009-11-21T16:36:04.439-06:002009-11-21T16:36:04.439-06:00my oldest and at the time only son was there for t...my oldest and at the time only son was there for the birth of his little brother. he was 7 at the time and it was unfortunately in a hospital (long story). i had decided he should be there if he wanted to early on and had several conversations with him about it and he was game with the escape clause that he could leave at any time. it was very important to me for him to be there and see everything. in the end i acually ended up giving birth to my second in a total of three hours (from first cramp to birth) so it was really crazy. i remember at the last minuet holding on to call him in from the other room and made everybody give him viewing space right before the moment i gave birth. he was amazed and thought i was amazing and a little freaked out. i know that it was the right thing and will be valuable to him in the long run and i love that he was there and saw everything. im not sure if i would have made the same decision if he were a different person or a different age but it all worked out.lorrienoreply@blogger.com